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I just wanted to make an announcement, fyi. I thought of this because of something I read in ljanonymous. I think it was Tibby responding to a post she either thought was me or jokingly responded to because it sounds like something I'd say. Anyway, I have never, nor will I ever, post anonymously to that community. I don't find any fault with people who do it purely for entertainment, although I do feel bad for the people who need that kind of reinforcement not to feel so terrible about their lives ("Oooh, other people like fucking penguins too! I must be normal!") or people who post anonymously to knock on other people or cultures or whatever. That said, I'm certainly not trying to stir up any shit by saying this, and I don't really care what you think about how I feel about it. If you post here trying to defend it, I'll just delete your comment anyway, so don't bother. I mainly just never want anyone to think that something said in there anonymously is by me.

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withbutterflies
Oct. 15th, 2003 10:20 pm (UTC)
Word y0 knee-grow
vengeant
Oct. 15th, 2003 11:05 pm (UTC)
Oooh, other people like fucking penguins too! I must be normal! ;-)
ex_okcmendy986
Oct. 15th, 2003 11:54 pm (UTC)
I rarely read that board, because it pisses me off more often than not. I'd prefer not to be pissed off.

By the way, you were delightful on the phone! I loves me some you. :)

democritus
Oct. 16th, 2003 08:13 am (UTC)
Yes, you were too! Hopefully next time I can talk to you less hammered. ;-)
gingy
Oct. 16th, 2003 05:15 am (UTC)
I belonged to the community for about a day, then I realized it really wasn't what I wanted to be about. I'm totally with you, Vince.
ex_tibstangl962
Oct. 16th, 2003 05:16 am (UTC)
Whoa...Demo - it wasn't me. I haven't posted to that thread.
drainbead
Oct. 16th, 2003 06:02 am (UTC)
Wow, it sounded like you. Maybe it was someone trying to sound like you.
ex_tibstangl962
Oct. 16th, 2003 06:03 am (UTC)
Actually, I know who it was - and yes, it does sort of sound like me, except that I rarely joke about Asian accents in writing. :P

But nope! Not this kid.
democritus
Oct. 16th, 2003 08:12 am (UTC)
Someone did a GOOD Tibby then. ;-)
justplainbryan
Oct. 16th, 2003 05:58 am (UTC)
Gah! It's too late! I already assumed you've posted in every entry that community has!

And yes, it's too late to change my mind!
psycat90
Oct. 16th, 2003 08:50 am (UTC)
I've never posted to it either, having only found out about it a few weeks ago, and I only read it the day I found out about it, and found it quite disturbing. I knew you never posted to it, and I know you never would. You always want the credit for offending people. ;)
democritus
Oct. 16th, 2003 09:17 am (UTC)
Precisely!
zette
Oct. 16th, 2003 12:12 pm (UTC)
Penguin Fuckers of the world- UNITE!!!
scotticher
Oct. 17th, 2003 02:37 pm (UTC)
I agree with you, Vince. I would never post anonymously because I feel that if I believe strongly enough about ANYTHING to post about it, I believe strongly enough to sign my name. I got into some trouble with this in the anonymous LJ, several people seemed to feel that I thought I was better than them because I felt that slamming someone without signing your name was wrong. "Self righteous bitch" and recommendations for banning me factored into the "discussion." Fair enough. I had to do some long hard thinking about that, because I truly don't think I am better than anyone who feels okay about being anonymous posters. I obviously must have come across that way, though, so I had to examine myself to see if I really DO feel that way and didn't realize it.

Of course, people were saying unkind things about people I love, and it distressed me very much. So I wasn't very nice about it, and for that I am sorry. But at least I said it. Me, Scotti. So I have to take whatever "backlash" that comes from what I said. And that is as, I believe, it SHOULD be.

I guess I don't like it, and I think it is wrong, to slam someone anonymously. But I don't think I am better than anyone because they don't agree with me. It doesn't make me feel superior, it just makes me sad that people who feel that strongly aren't willing to stand up and SAY so....they are, after all, naming names. So shouldn't they be identifying themselves, too? But...Jarbaby was right. For that reason, I don't belong there, and I haven't been back.

Which is a very verbose way of saying that I refuse to post ANYTHING anonymously ANYWHERE. If I can't say it under my own name, I shouldn't be saying it. Not expecting anyone else to agree with me, just the way I choose to conduct my life.
democritus
Oct. 17th, 2003 02:50 pm (UTC)
I agree with you Cheri, and that was very well put. Precisely why I intentionally said that I "felt bad" for them, instead of saying I was better or they were less of a person. Fortunately for me, I could give a rat's ass about what people say about me, and I think they realize it, so I don't see much said about me (Why say it if it's not going to hurt the one you intend on hurting? ;-) But part of what makes you Scotti is that you're sensitive and a little thin skinned (in a good way). I'm sorry if they hurt your feelings though.
scotticher
Oct. 17th, 2003 03:16 pm (UTC)
It's okay, hon. I always listen to anything anyone says about me, because sometimes a person misses some negative TRUE thing about themself....and it is always a good idea to examine yourself and decide whether something someone has said has merit or not. Even something said anonymously. Perhaps even MORE because it was said anonymously. I always want to be a better person than I am, and if I need to work on something, I WANT to work on it.

Yes, it hurt my feelings. But if they were right, I wanted to understand it and work on correcting it. So I would never want anyone to NOT say something just because they thought it would hurt me, you know? And the truth is, I understand where they were coming from. I truly DON'T feel superior to anyone who posts anonymously, but I see that I came across that way. So it is good to know, so I can work on how I say whatever it is that I have to say.....and say it in a way that doesn't sound so self-righteous.


Anyway, I know it is not my responsibility to defend the people I love. I just cannot help myself, so it is better if I don't even read it to begin with. That way I don't get upset and start brandishing flaming swords and things. :D
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