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At work it seems I'm constantly meeting patients who have lost their spouses recently, or even not that recently but are still heartbroken. They'll start crying and then I start getting weepy and it's so god damn sad. It makes me think about how I would feel if I lost Shan, but then these people have been together for 30,40,50 years and I just can not even begin to fathom how they can go on. I suppose the human brain is ultimately adaptable to new situations, even in old age. I'm surprised you don't hear of more suicides in cases like that.

Anyway, Happy Friday!

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jaytee
Mar. 26th, 2010 04:32 pm (UTC)
And then they ask you if they're going to glow, at which point you punch them in the face.
ellnra22
Mar. 26th, 2010 04:33 pm (UTC)
More like depressing Friday! sheesh. Seriously though, I can't imagine either. I can't even imagine losing one of my parents or my sister let alone my husband. I would just want to die. It's definitely a sobering thought and reminds me to appreciate every moment I have with him.
Happy Friday!
delphica
Mar. 26th, 2010 05:12 pm (UTC)
My uncle died about four years ago, and my aunt was obviously devastated, but in the years since, she seems like her usual self who likes to have fun, stay up all night, travel, throw big parties, etc etc. Recently, it came out that EVERY DAY she wakes up in the morning and realizes that she's alone in bed, and remembers that her husband died, and feels as awful as she did on the first day.

So yes, Happy Friday back at ya!
zette
Mar. 26th, 2010 06:02 pm (UTC)
If for some reason your life functions ceased, my most precious one, I would collapse. I would draw the shades and I would live in the dark. I would never get out of my slar phase or clean myself. My fluids would coagulate, my cone would shrivel, and I would die; miserable and lonely. The stench would be great.
democritus
Mar. 26th, 2010 06:11 pm (UTC)
Had to look that one up. Nice!
backuplj
Mar. 26th, 2010 11:16 pm (UTC)
Cheery thoughts!
jamespolk
Mar. 26th, 2010 11:50 pm (UTC)
The only obvious answer it to kill your spouse so that every time you get said you have to say "well, this is a lot of nonsense isn't it? I can't very well be bawling all the time when it's my own damn fault."
thingstouchme
Mar. 27th, 2010 03:37 pm (UTC)
This is why a lot of older people who are recently widowed die shortly after their spouse does. It's like their will to live dies with their partner, so they do too. I can think of 4 cases of this happening just within my own family.

I can't imagine meeting those people every week. I'd be so depressed!
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